A Particular Person

There are some things in life that I will never understand.  Politics, for example.  The workings of teenage male brains.  My own mood shifts.  But most of what I am convinced I will never understand this side of heaven is the thought patterns of certain individuals.

There is a certain person in particular who has me perplexed at present.  This particular person is known to have mental problems right out of the gate, but that doesn't always mean the worst.  I've had my own run with mental illnesses, specifically PTS and depression.  This particular person's conditions are more deeply rooted than these, but again, never judge.  On the other hand, these conditions make this particular person harder to read (not the same as judge) and therefore more difficult understand at times.  Recently, I have needed to let go of my relationship with this particular person.

This particular person believes that I have had a hand in ruining their life.  This particular person's parents believe the same, but for different reasons.  Through the grapevine it has come to light that both this particular person and the parent have been voicing in no uncertain terms their discontent with me.  Yet, this particular person contacted my husband to ask his opinion of whether they should ask me to get together, they really miss me.  Really?

First of all, what part of "I'm done" was unclear?  Second, if this particular person believes so strongly, as do other people in their life, that I am even partly responsible for several months of trauma, why on earth would they want to be anywhere near me?  So I can continue to be the blame for the after effects of recent events?  Do they really miss me or do they miss someone paying attention to them, having someone they know will be available to drag into the drama of life?

For better or worse, I have stopped trying to figure this particular person out.  I am at peace with the fact that I will never understand this particular person, and perhaps I'm not meant to.  I would love to see this particular person happy in life, but obviously any happiness we may have shared along the way has been shoved to the side to make room for blame.  I do not presume to guess what would make this particular person happy, since I simply don't understand.